In some ways, it hasn’t set in that it’s been almost three years since I worked what I thought was my dream job. That’s something I always find myself struggling with, the pressures of fitting into this mold of what someone in their mid-twenties should be doing. When in reality, everyone’s paths are so different and not one persons ideal job or relationship status is the same. I swear it’s almost weekly that I go back and forth between ‘Am I happy with where I am in my life?’ to ‘I’m in the best place I’ve ever been,’ and I’m always so afraid to say it out loud for the fear of appearing a failure. But I have come to realize that it is more than okay to take your time finding your dream career or waiting to settle into a routine. It is easy to compare lives on social media, but nobody documents their bad days on Instagram.
I remember talking to my parents when I was younger about my idea of what I wanted for my life and let me tell you the way I imagined my life for my twenties is very different than how it has panned out. I’ve always wanted to move away from my hometown, but I never thought I would actually follow through. You know those things you say out loud to your best friends, but you never think you’ll actually do it? That’s how I was about leaving my small town life. It was something that was so untouchable, yet I am now thousands of miles away from the only home I ever knew. Wild. It really is wild the things you can do when you set your mind to something.
One thing I have learned is there is no set timeline or rule book on how life is supposed to be lived. It’s more than okay to fall down a few times; you just have to make sure you get back up. It’s so cliche, I know, but people say it for a reason. It’s true. You have to keep going forward. I remember being fourteen thinking that I would be married by twenty one and have kids by twenty five, but that was not the case for me. And I am more than okay with that. It’s honestly the pressures of social media that can run circles around my head some nights and it’s scary, but I try to remind myself that it’s rare someone posts the bad days. It’s a constant highlight reel of the adventure films.
I guess what I’m trying to say is to never sell yourself short. Everyone has a different path and timeline and as long as you do what makes you happy everything will fall into place.