Beauty isn’t defined by the clothes that you wear, a number of followers you have on social media or the colour of your hair. What makes you gorgeous is much greater than what is on the surface. What is beautiful is the passion in your voice when you talk about your greatest love or the dreams you have.
For a few years, I would struggle with the idea of beauty and what beauty really was. I’ll be the first to admit that when I was younger I thought outward appearances were what made someone beautiful. Even all throughout my childhood, my parents told me numerous times, that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Boy, were they right! It didn’t matter if I felt I looked beautiful, if I was speaking unkind words and acting in an ungrateful manner, I wasn’t presenting myself beautifully. The truth of it all is, beauty comes from within, and I know everyone has heard that saying time and time again, but it holds a lot of worth behind it.
Growing up in today’s world with social media at our fingertips and magazines at every grocery store checkout, the idea of what makes someone beautiful is splattered every which direction you look. It’s so easy to cave into the hype of purchasing a product that claims to make you look younger overnight or feeling validated by how many likes you get on a picture you posted. I’ve been there and let me tell you, it was lonely. I’d like to share a little bit about my experience with the definition of beauty and how it has evolved.
Ever since I was a little girl I was fascinated by all things beauty related, whether that be painting my nails, the current hair trends or the newest makeup brand. I was constantly changing my hair colour and cut (if I felt brave enough, long hair has always been my go to) and what skincare products I was using. I easily became reliant on products to help me feel secure within myself. This was mostly from when I was 15 on to 21. I was incredibly self-conscious of how others might perceive me if I didn’t appear “flawless.” I use quotations there because throughout the last four years I have learned to embrace my flaws and celebrate my imperfections; I realize now that wearing makeup doesn’t make someone more beautiful than someone who doesn’t. But until I was 21 I was so insecure if I didn’t have a full face of makeup on, which looking back was so silly because I had gorgeous healthy skin.
I slowly began buying makeup and skincare products almost weekly. I treated as a hobby and I was obsessed with all the newest brands and trends. By this point, it wasn’t that I relied on makeup to allow me to feel good about myself, I was genuinely interested and started collecting it. Makeup to me became my safe haven, I could explore new techniques and learn so many different ways to use just one product. I have to thank youtube for making my passion for makeup so accessible and allowing me to really expand my knowledge. My mom never wore too much makeup so for me this was all new and so exciting; I really had to teach myself.
I was still on the hunt for what true beauty really was and I wanted nothing more than to feel that for myself. I made a vow to myself when I was 21 that I would wear less makeup for the everyday look and try to let my personality shine. To be honest, it really wasn’t until I was 22 that I became comfortable with myself and really loved how I looked with and without makeup. I used to try to cover up every single imperfection on my body whereas now I see that my little flaws are what make me, me.
All throughout my teenage years and early twenties I wanted to look a certain way and if there was something I didn’t like about myself I wanted to change it immediately. And trust me, there are a few things that I’m still learning to love about myself but that’s the amazing part of this journey, it’s never ending. The things I disliked about myself five years ago are some of the things now that I love. I feel the most beautiful now when I am surrounded by people I love and smiling for minutes on end. Smiles really are one, if not the, most beautiful accessory you can have.
My perception of beauty has evolved tremendously and I am truly grateful it has because it has opened my eyes to so many different kinds of beauty I wasn’t aware of before. I believe that a person’s personality can light up an entire room and be so inviting. In the last few years, I have made an effort to become more kind, patient and accepting. Everyone deserves to be treated equally and to be accepted no matter which walks of life they come from. Just like my mom told me when I was younger, beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and true beauty comes from within. Kindness is one of the most beautiful traits a person can have along with a forgiving heart. My hope for myself is that I continue to grow and become a greater version of myself every day.